Self-Romance

My thoughts on Seember’s thought-provoking “What Makes You Loveable?” inspired this post.

My self-love started when I realised that seeking validation from others was not absolutely necessary.

I love how when I make an extra effort to upgrade myself, appearance-wise, character-wise and skills-wise, I am sensitive enough to notice an improvement and give myself a pat on the back. 

I love my child-like glee when I realise that God has answered a casually mentioned prayer.

I love how I dance shamelessly in my car, regardless of who is watching, when there’s a “correct” song playing on the radio.

I love my loud, hearty, no-holds-barred laughter.

I love how I enjoy paying people compliments, their smiles really warm my heart.

I love how I genuinely empathize with people.

I love my DIY skills, Heck! if I can do it myself, I’m not paying anyone to do it for me.

I love my sense of self-sufficiency.

I love how I appreciate the little things…

Well, here’s my self-declaration, with no narcissistic undertone whatsoever,- Gosh!  I really am so loveable XD

 “It truly starts with oneself, there’s just a certain way you’d carry yourself that will make it hard for anybody else to not fall in line” – Seember

I agree with this perspective,  your self-love should radiate so blindingly that people will need to put on their dark Ray-Bans and conform, lol.

Feeling myself

♫ Feeling myself ♪

Anyway,  this gorgeous fabric that I recently purchased is totally feeling itself.   It’s a soft lace in the most demure ivory colour that will make even the most aloof bride giddy with excitement. The pretty floral pattern literally made my heart skip a beat the moment I saw it, and I cannot wait to show you what I plan to sew.

So, what makes you loveable to YOU? 🙂

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  2. your “loves” totally agree with mine, its amazing how different people can agree on the same issues.

    recently i find myself loving how content i’ve become with my things. not craving so much for stuffs i cant afford

    i love that i’ve been working so much at being the best that i can be as i hate mediocrity

    i love that i can relate with people even being mildly introverted

    i love that i can see the big pictures of things ^.^

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    1. A sense of contentment is truly the root of happiness.

      Lol @ “…hate mediocrity”, I can relate with this, why settle for less?

      Your self-loves are great! 🙂

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  3. HAhahahaha! Came over here from Seember’s. I love how sunshine-y this post is. I literally can see bright yellow and neon all over it. Love it. I will probably do a response post and link back here.

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  4. Hmmmn, self love wasn’t something our flesh understood in the best way possible and if there was any opportunity, it was for selfish reasons. But I’m glad God’s love for me changes that perspective and makes me see that I can only love myself because He loved me first.

    And so I’m getting to love myself because of the woman God is turning me into each and everyday. I know there are somethings Itunu cannot do without God in Her life and so when His love compels me to do certain things which seem hard for my flesh to comprehend, I’m grateful He’s there at least.

    I enjoyed this post sha 🙂 And yes, I think I’m growing to love myself no apologies whatsoever. I haven’t completed the journey but I know with time, I’ll bloom.

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    1. Hello Itunu,

      Oh! the reassurance of God’d unconditional love is beautiful. I agree wholeheartedly with you, if God finds me worthy of such love, then there must be something loveable about me.

      Thank you so much for your depthful comment. 🙂

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  5. I love alot of things about myself, I won’t turn your comments section into my first unpublished novel with the list 🙂 I would however like to share what I have recently come to love about myself: My ability to see the world with my heart; whilst my eyes present me with the basic facts, my heart tells me a bigger story. I find myself drawing inspiration from the most “mundane” things because of my heart’s vision. It’s a beautiful experience.

    By the way, I found myself nodding at all the things you listed. Not only because I relate but because these qualities also shine through your blog. My favorite is the laugh! 🙂

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    1. Hello Busidh,

      Lol, “first unpublished novel” cracked me up XD

      I love how you described your heart’s vision.

      Thank you so much for reading.

      Have a beautiful week!

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  6. I think I’m loveable because:
    1. No matter what, I’ve cultivated the habit of laughing at myself.
    2. I’m a lot calmer than I used to be.
    3. I’m a cheap date (this one is being revised people, fair warning).
    4. I’m actually very organised and motivated when I decide to be.
    5. I’m (insanely) independent and quite self sufficient.
    6. I go out of my way to be fair and consistently to be the best representation of God that I can be.
    I like your self romance too. It’s very important to be in tune with the person in the mirror. And to love them too. 👍

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    1. Dear Uju,

      I knew your comment would be nothing less than cheeky, your fair warning has been duly noted XD

      I love the things you find loveable about yourself. Laughing at one’s self indicates that one doesn’t sweat the small stuff.

      “It’s very important to be in tune with the person in the mirror. And to love them too” Indeed!!! Thank you for reading.

      Have a beautiful rest-of-the-week.

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    1. Bookie dear, your bubbly, zest-for-life personality shines throughout your blog. I literally hear your excited voice and laughter whenever I read your posts.

      Genuine compliments make both the recipient and the giver feel great, I’m not a fan of backhanded compliments, lol

      Correct music all day, everyday! 🙂

      Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

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  8. But, of course, you must dance when a correct song comes up. One is only human after all.

    I love that I’m a happy person.
    I love that there are a lot of things I don’t care about.

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    1. Hello Chuma,

      Oh yes, music naturally stimulates the urge to dance especially when it’s deliciously rhythmic, But I find that most people aren’t unself-conscious enough to dance (like no one is watching) whilst sitting inside a car, in the full glare of total strangers. That’s the real magic.

      I love that you are winning in the pursuit of happiness.

      Thank you for reading 🙂

      Have a nice weekend!

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  9. You reallllly do love yourself, babe. 😉

    Hmmm…I love my DIY skills like you too oh. #NoTime
    I love my shoulders…they are way too broad! 😀
    I love my sense of compassion.
    I love the fact I enjoy my company when alone. #IntrovertAlert
    I love it when God answers my “thoughts”. Oh yes!!!

    Thanks for this, Nedoux. You have inspired me to do a blog post on this. :*

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    1. Hey Lady Duchess,

      I wave the flag of self-appreciation a bit too enthusiastically XD

      I love that you have a sense of compassion. #TeamDIY, whoop whoop!!!

      You are most welcome. That’s great, I’d love to see your take on this. Please see Seember’s post, it is truly beautiful.

      Have a super weekend.

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    1. Hello Dumebi,

      Indeed, it is an awesome feeling 😀

      Yes, think about it and please share with me. Thank you so much for reading.

      Have a lovely weekend.

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  11. You know I had to come here! I honestly have contemplated going back to edit my original post & add what makes me lovable to myself so thank you for giving me this option.
    What makes me love me?
    1. I am honest, Have integrity & I’m compassionate.
    2. I’m always thinking of how I can help & make others happy
    3. I love & enjoy life.
    4. I’m the life of the party – in my close knit circle.
    5. My word is my bond.
    6. I am genuinely happy when I make others happy
    7. I am kind, warm, big heart and real
    8. I am fiercely independent
    9. I truly enjoy my own company.
    10. I am self sufficient

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    1. Dear Seember,

      I am so glad that you visited. Thank you so much for the inspiration.

      I really appreciate the depth behind “enjoying one’s own company”, as it removes one from the silliness of being too needy or clingy.

      Ah! your self-romance is the real deal 😀

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  12. I love how I’ve stopped doubting myself.

    I love how I’m not so shy anymore (not that being shy is a bad thing sha)

    I love all the lil things of life and oh, the new friends I’ve made.

    I love your blog and your sense of humor.

    Epiphany 29

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  14. I love that you are selfless, kind and a friend that sticks closer than a sister (in your case). A Jewel of inestimable value. May God continuously bless you all in all.

    Ps* I have done the needful 🙂

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    1. My dear Ijeomee,

      Your heart-warming comment brought tears to my eyes, I sincerely appreciate your friendship and support.

      Lol, I know that you have done the needful XD

      God bless you always.

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